Power and control
Abusers are very insecure and are often delusional about their partner leaving them or having an affair. There is nothing that the victim can do to assure their abuser that they have no intention of leaving the relationship or that they are not having an affair. The abuser may claim they are just concerned about the relationship, but it can quickly lead to verbal threats and stalking. A victim may be overly concerned about not showing up at a specific place or time where their abuser wants them to be.
A certain level of jealousy can occur at the beginning of an intimate relationship as the couple tries to establish trust and exclusivity. It can be flattering at first, but problems occur when one partner’s jealousy becomes prolonged and more intense. They begin to view their partner’s attention to anyone or anything else as a threat to the relationship and seek to isolate their partner from friends, family, work, or hobbies.
Isolation is the extension of jealousy. To make sure the victim is not having an affair, the abuser will isolate their partner from family, friends, and coworkers while making the excuse that they are protecting them from the bad influences. The victim will suddenly stop going to gatherings with family, friends, or coworkers.
The victim will start to dress in a way that will make them less attractive to other people. They may also wear clothing that is not appropriate for the season such as wearing long-sleeve turtleneck shirts and pants in the middle of summer. This type of clothing may also be used to hide evidence of physical abuse.
The cycle of abusive behavior
The abuser will often physically or mentally explode at their partner then be very apologetic over what they did. Things will be quiet for a period of time until the abuser explodes again. This is the cycle of abuse that leaves the victim confused and wondering what went wrong and hoping for another honeymoon period of calm and reconciliation. Victims who are in this circumstance should quietly and secretly get the help that is offered through a number of organizations who can help the victim be removed from this situation.
The majority of women who experience domestic violence don’t want to admit that their family is falling apart due to that. They won’t acknowledge that the pain they go through is the result of anything even close to domestic violence. And, to protect their family, they are willing to suffer for years.
This kind of thinking is wrong. The partner that uses force against their family will always do that. They aren’t going to stop after a couple of years. If you are getting beaten on a regular basis, then you are a victim, and you should do something to stop that.
How to recognize domestic violence
Any partner that tries to control their family through beating and fear is a criminal. They usually isolate their family from others, as third parties are not afraid to point out the wrong things in the family. This isolation of victims means that they get too scared to seek help because they have no one that is close enough.
Some victims love their spouses to the extent that they don’t see their violence as a problem. They know it is wrong, but they still go back to it. Individuals like this either think that they don’t have any other option or their love toward the assailant clouds their judgment.
The victim isn’t guilty of the abuse
A lot of women think that it’s their fault for receiving punishment from their husbands. That is not the truth. If the man beats the women for no reason (there is no reason for using violence at all), then they are guilty of that. The victim is just an individual who is afraid to complain about it.
If you experience domestic violence, then you should report it. Seeking help from our organization (or other groups that support victims) will help you in several ways. The most critical form of assistance is protection from the violence while the court process is active. And don’t worry, your children will be better off without a father who abuses them, so don’t be afraid to report the husband as you will get the custody of the children.
It’s a sad thing that very few people know enough about domestic violence to explain to an individual who knows nothing about the subject. People think that the law takes care of everything and thus they don’t see this subject as a problem it is.
The crucial piece of info to know is that physical assault is just one form of the domestic violence. Psychological terror is also the way that an assailant can abuse the victim. Other types of abuse exist, and they are less-known to the general public.
Domestic violence facts you don’t know
The lack of proper laws that adequately punish assailants in the cases of domestic violence helped criminals to continue with their wicked ways. The most significant problem was an abuse of children that aren’t straight.
More than three million of registered victims of domestic violence in the USA exists, and just shy of a third of them are men (800 000). These cases of domestic abuse result in billions of dollars in medical costs, the loss of productivity of victims as well as injury, death, and homelessness. Homelessness is the result of male victims reporting crimes and not being taken seriously. In those cases the women make false allegations that get accepted by legal authorities and men lose everything in court processes.Individuals that witness family abuse in their young age tend to turn into abusers when they form their own family. Alcohol abuse is another element that leads to domestic violence. This can affect all individuals, no matter their race, religion or economic situation.
Proper prevention of domestic violence doesn’t exist
Many organizations and legal representatives talk about the prevention of domestic violence through the introduction of financial opportunities to partners and family therapies. But none of that work as it addresses the situation once it is too late.
The real prevention of domestic violence comes from teaching potential victims about their rights and showing them that they have no reason to stay with the abuser (or potential abuser). If an individual knows how to recognize an abused partner, then they can get away from them before they become victims.
The legal system works hard on prevention of domestic abuse of women. That doesn’t apply to men that suffer abuse in their family. Almost the majority of people laugh when they hear about men who experience domestic violence because they don’t believe that it is possible. The whole legal system is like that as well. They don’t recognize men as potential victims of abuse in the family.
This is a sad thing as many men have to experience prolonged abuse before they finally decide to give up on the marriage. And they tend to lose everything if they choose to get away from the abuser. This is due to the system giving women everything they want even if they are the assailants.
How can men experience abuse in the family?
The most obvious way a woman can abuse the man is to cause them physical harm. Very few men will report that as no one will take them seriously. And even if a man reports the abuse, the woman can come out and say that it was in self-defense and everyone will believe her.
The other way women can abuse men is to use verbal insults in front of other people. Being belittled and humiliated in front of other people is harsh for men. This is followed by possessiveness where they prevent their husbands from meeting other people.
Women can also threaten to leave the victims and take their kids away if they try to report the abuse (this happens more than you think). Women who abuse their husbands also need to have control over everything, and that includes finances and the freedom to go out of the house. If the victim tries to resist, then they tend to make false allegations against victims that turn them into criminals.
Why do men stay in toxic relationships?
Men stay in marriages where they are victims because they don’t want to leave their children with the abuser. Many of them also feel shame because everyone will ridicule them as no one can see a man as a victim of domestic abuse.